Friday, February 16, 2007

Do Unto Others...

So, I've always made a big thing about trying to live my life by the Golden Rule.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Treat people as you'd like to be treated.

Love thy brother as thyself.

From B'hai to Buddhism, just about every world religion and culture has their own version of it. Makes you think it's a basic human law, doesn't it?

"Basic" being the key word here. It's kind of a basic instinct and doesn't seem that hard to do, either, making it the perfect law for which I could base the way I live my life. Easy to remember, easy to do, easy to commit to, easy to teach.

So exactly how did I manage to FUBAR it up so badly?

I hate that I let my guard down. I hate when I hurt anyone's feelings. I didn't mean to do it.

Like I say constantly in my day job, it's not the intent, it's the effect it has on people.

So, my only excuse is that I'm human with apparently latent inhuman tendencies and I fucked up. That discovery doesn't change a damned thing, of course. Except that maybe now I won't take something so important for granted.


At 3:02 PM , Blogger Skeezix said...

Lori, I know that you really feel terrible but I think that you are not to blame in this case. There is nothing wrong with good old fashioned venting, which all I really think you could be considered guilty of.

I still love you, and really, isn't that all that matters?

At 5:59 AM , Blogger firstimpressionist said...

Basic, but sometimes inexplicably hard to accomplish.
Hey, if you can only point to one recent fubar, you're doing pretty great.

At 2:06 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

What happened went beyond 'good old fashioned venting'. Amazing how some people can justify the things they do and say.

Having integrity means doing the right thing even when it's not the easy thing.

At 1:24 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Having integrity also means owning up when you make a mistake, which I think you've done to the best of your ability. Having integrity doesn't mean being perfect, which is fortunate as nobody is. You had the integrity to apologize, you have the humanity to feel more guilt about this than most people feel about far worse infractions, and you have the humility to take ownership of your actions and apologize.

You did things that were hurtful, as did many others. There's no disputing that fact and I knos you never tried to. Good people make mistakes, even hurtful unfortunate ones, and the real measure of a person is how they respond when faced with those mistakes.

You may never get forgiveness from those you want it from, perhaps for them the things are unforgiveable, but you should be able to sleep at night knowing that you've done your best to make sure that people know you're sorry and regretful.

At 8:08 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear other anonymous,

Since when did posting something on a blog equal an apology? Is that the 'best of her ability'?

What happened to actually contacting the people you have wronged and apologizing the good old fashioned way. I don't see any way to forgive anyone since not one person has actually personally apologized to me.

At 8:09 AM , Blogger ZigKvetch said...

Anonymous #1, I'm not sure who you are, but I have an idea.

If you are who I think you are, I did send you an e-mail apology to the same e-mail address to which I sent you a birthday greeting in late January (I'm hoping that this will be enough of an identifier).

I didn't hear back from you after your birthday or the apology, so maybe I have the wrong e-mail address? Unfortunately, I don't have a lot of people's e-mails and as far as I know, I've been unfriended on MySpace (totally understandable). If you will send me your e-mail address, I'd be happy to send you my apology again.

That said, I know that even if each and every one of you received my personal apology, you would, understandably, still not think much of me or my integrity.

If I don't have the correct person, please let me know. I don't have very many people's e-mails, so I did what I thought I could do and posted on my blog and attempted to e-mail those I know I hurt (and whose e-mail addresses I had). I'm sorry that that's not nearly enough and I understand completely that it's not nearly enough.

I am very, very sorry. In particular, to M, J and B, all of whom I think (and again, I know this amounts to a hill of beans at this point) are very good, nice people who didn't deserve this. I regret hurting you and saying those things more than you will ever know.

At 10:15 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I did indeed receive your birthday email, but I absolutely never received an apology email.

At 10:44 AM , Blogger ZigKvetch said...

I am so sorry you never received it! I don't have the original but will write to you later today.


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